Welcome to Day 26 of the 30 Days of Forgiveness. //

​Hello, Dear One.

Today I sit in quiet stillness. 

It is a sharp contrast to what I have left behind.

I’m looking out large glass doors and windows enjoying a lovely view. Mist has covered everything outside—including the pool area where my eyes rest. The scene calms me, reassuring me everything is going to be okay.

Last week when I posted, I was in deep turmoil. It had become clear that I needed to leave my home and relocate due to a continuous noise disturbance, and after four and a half months of trying to find resolution and quiet, I made the scary decision to put my home on the market and leave for good.

I wish I could say I felt relief, but instead I mostly wallowed in self judgement and fear as I packed my belongings and put them in storage. What would people say? Would I be able to sell my home and recoup my investment? Would my family be supportive with me coming home to stay, or would they judge me for the situation I found myself in? 

I worried and fretted continuously—my mind so busy I could hardly sleep.

Yet here I sit—one week later. A calm, peaceful stillness has filled my heart and soul. I am staying in one of the most lovely properties on the planet, and gratitude has filled every cell in my body.

The contrast between the past two weeks remind me what a powerful decision I made—of  how important it was that I honored who I am and what I neededIt ensures me that I deserve to live and work in a location that supports my wellbeing and joy. It affirms me that no matter how rocky things can get in life, there is resolution when one is willing to to do what is in their highest good.

All of that said, I openly confess.

I am having trouble staying connected with my Higher Self during this stressful transition. The uncertainty of things scares me deeply, and my mind can be deeply clouded with fears and worries. I often feel the Truth is obscured from view, and I’ve lost touch with my Inner Guidance.

Last night over dinner I shared this with a friend.

She emphasized the importance of silence at times like these. She shared she’s been to two ten-day silent retreats, and carving out time for silence can be one of the kindest things we can do for ourselves during stressful times.

Silence connects us with our inner wisdom“—she gently said.

In the midst of my mind rattling on and on—continuously streaming it’s endless ticker tape of fears and concerns—I can’t agree more with her.

Silence is what I really need in this very moment.

Today’s Contemplation

Consider silence and how it could be instrumental in your own life.

Is there anything happening in this very moment that prevents you from connecting with your Higher Guidance? Are busy thoughts keeping you in fear? Is uncertainty robbing you of your joy?

Or perhaps like my sweet friend, you’ve actually experienced the great power of silence. You’ve seen how silence can connect you with what is in your highest good, and you’d like to reconnect with this personal power and inner wisdom.

Take some time today to be in silence and really honor yourself. Get curious and see if your Higher Self has anything to share with you.

I’d Love To Hear From You

Leave a comment on the blog and share your thoughts on today’s post. Share what you’re personally going through or how silence has helped you in the past.

Alright, dear one. As always, I’m a holding space for you to live a peaceful, joy-filled life.




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12 comments on “Using Silence To Connect With Your Inner Wisdom”

  1. I think this is one of your most beautifully written challenges, Misty. And I so appreciate the honesty and openness with which you share your personal experience. Silence is indeed golden. It is such a vital way of connecting with Guidance, Being, Higher Self, God. Here at Sunrise we have recently been moving on the theme of “spiritual activism” in our services. My friend Gary, whom you know, described silence as the gateway to spiritual activism, in fact to all spiritual action. Without connection to Source that is most immediately available in silence the thoughts we think, the words we speak and the actions we take are without spiritual value. So how essential it is to maintain constant connection with the still center of Being.

    • Gary certainly has a way with words. Doesn’t he? He’s an incredibly talented individual. =)

      I’m starting to see silence as the bridge between the self and Self. It certainly helps me personally separate the voice of my Wounded Self from the voice of my Inner Guidance. If I do not take the time for silence, I can get confused who is “talking” to me.

      It also helps me rejuvenate. The huge amount of noise that goes in my mind can be exhausting.

      • Over years of spiritual practice I have discovered that there is a way of coming from the Still Center in every moment without having to deliberately cultivate silence utilizing meditation or some other technique. All of life, in effect, becomes a meditation. One is constantly attuned to the Still Center and all action springs from there. Yes, a multiplicity of thoughts may run through the mind, many of course from the Wounded Self, but they are simply observed and even used to vibrationally release blessings to aspects of one’s world. I suppose what is called Mindfulness is the spiritual practice that comes closest to what I’m talking about.

        • I love your description. “One is constantly attuned to the Still Center and all action springs from there.”

          So many of us need to start out by using techniques such as meditation and mindfulness practice, but what a wonderful thing to find connecting with Guidance as natural as breathing. So natural it is engrained as a way of being—something that one never needs “practice”. You just are silence. You are connected.

          I like this, Jerry!

  2. As a kid and on through my early adult years, I was riddled with anxiety. Obsessing about what others thought of me, being uneasy in a clique-filled social environment and worrying about my future bogged me down. I’m more of an introvert than an extrovert, so silence came naturally to me. The problem for me is that even though I had lots of time being silent, much of that time was filled with the storm raging in my brain. Many times that silence only made my anxiety worse. I needed something more/better/different but didn’t know what it could be.

    And then I discovered meditation. While meditation is centered around silence, the most important aspect is the practice of purposefully quieting the mind. Initially focusing only on the breath moving in and out through the nostrils, as thoughts arise, the challenge is to keep a distance from those thoughts. Only observe them. Don’t start engaging in a dialogue in the mind with those thoughts or react to them in any way.

    When sensations come up in the body, such as an ache or an itch, the temptation may be to scratch the itch or rub the ache. But don’t do that! Never react, only observe. In other words, Feel the Pain.

    Now here’s where the magic of meditation works its wonders: For some reason, when you only observe and not react and maintain that focus by only observing thoughts and sensations, the physical pain or distracting thought will abate all by itself! It’s magic. Initially, it’s like surfing on turbulent, choppy waves in the ocean. As you hold the meditation state of mind by not reacting and only observing, those waves dissipate and your surfboard gently floats onto the beach. Anxiety is mostly eliminated! Calmness and peace sets in.

    Perhaps an explanation for this is the proven release of healthy chemicals DHEA, melatonin, and serotonin during meditation. Here’s an article about meditation and chemistry: http://www.chemistryislife.com/the-chemistry-of-meditation

    Peace and joy!

    • Wow! I still often feel the way you did throughout your early adult years =) For me, times of great uncertainly really bring out my anxiety.

      I especially love when you say this, “The problem for me is that even though I had lots of time being silent, much of that time was filled with the storm raging in my brain. Many times that silence only made my anxiety worse. I needed something more/better/different but didn’t know what it could be.” I deeply relate to this experience.

      It’s great that you offer the solution that has really worked to help your anxiety. Meditation is such a simple, yet powerful tool to reduce suffering and bring out inner peace. It helps tame those nasty mind dragons. Right? And the website you include shows how that happens biochemically. Very cool!

      How long did you need to practice meditation before it began to help you manage the mind? Just curious.

      • I noticed an improvement shortly after starting the practice. It wasn’t huge at first, but after keeping at it, the effect was much more noticeable and profound. Vipassana put my practice into overdrive! I’ll be honest, it wasn’t easy. But then, nothing worthwhile is easy, right?

        • What do you mean by “it wasn’t easy”? If you don’t mind sharing—what specifically did you struggle with? I’m curious about your experience, as Vipassana was the same silent meditation that Shagufta mentioned at dinner.

          • The main struggle, especially for beginners, is always being able to keep the focus on breathing and observation of your bodily senses, instead of reacting to thoughts that arise.

  3. I first realized the need for silence in a strange occurrence in my life. Through an accident the radio/tape player in my only vehicle was rendered inoperative. (long story there) Now I had always started my truck and the radio was always on throughout my life. The truck was loud when running so I had to really crank up the volume to hear it. Within a few days of not having the radio on, I began to notice that my attention was improved while driving and I realized that I thought I had to have that noise distraction everywhere in my life. The soundtrack of my life, always noise wherever I went. I began to have some real breakthroughs in my personal recovery process. I started doing without the background noise at home and work. More clarity evolved in all phases of my recovery. To this day, I still do without the soundtrack I thought I needed in the past and feel more connected to my inner guidance in all the thoughts whether personal or professional. Even today, although my new truck has many entertainment options I prefer to think while driving more often than listen to the constant noise of outside influences.

    • I love this story, Curtis. What a blessing that your radio/tape player stopped working. =) I also love how you draw a parallel to the reduction in noise and the breakthroughs in your personal recovery process. I am starting to really become curious about and open to reducing the noise in my life (inner and outer) as a way to better connect to the voice within. I’m finding myself genuinely curious about dreams—as they can be just another way to connect with Guidance.

      And like you, I prefer to drive without listening to anything. I helps me clear my head and feel good inside, though I openly confess I do enjoy a good podcast from time-to-time.

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