Courage is fear that said its prayers.
Today’s the final day of our 30-Day Self-Compassion Challenge, and I’m so grateful you chose to go through this curriculum.
It was originally my intention to do some sort of fancy wrap up for Day 30, but as I sit here waiting for my flight from Manchester, England, to Houston, Texas, I’m in desparate need of self-compassion.
The purpose of today’s post is two-fold—to wrap up and say good luck on your self-compassion journey, as well as, to share a final lesson.
Regarding our wrap up lesson, I want to share…
Two nights ago I had a major freak out.
It happened right before I left Thailand too, so perhaps I shouldn’t have been so surprised by losing it. That said, I thought I had my emotions under wraps this time—thought I had this travel thing down.
Sometimes no matter how much care we extend ourselves or how much self-compassion we give, sometimes we just need more support.
I attempted to manage my helplessness over others and outcomes.
I did my very best.
And still…despite all the precautions and forward thinking, things just didn’t work out as I had hoped.
Has this ever happened to you? Have you ever thought you were fine—that you could handle the pressure—until you blew a gasket?
If you ever feel out of control, here are a few helpful suggestions:
- Put your hand on your heart and give yourself deep compassion as the core painful feelings of life (sadness, loneliness, helplessness over others and outcomes, grief, sorrow, heartache, heartbreak) arise.
- Manage your wounded feelings (anxiety, depression, anger, worry, criticism, judgement, frustration, exhaustion, etc) with a compassionate process such as Inner Bonding.
- Commit to get better sleep.
- Call a trusted friend.
Today’s Self-Compassion Challenge:
Move into compassion for yourself. Allow yourself to feel what you are feeling in this very moment. Every feeling is acceptable. Trust and know that there is a very good reason you feel the way you do. Your task is to open to learn about what is going on inside.
Check in with your Higher Self and see what you can do to best support yourself.
When I had my freak out, I couldn’t connect with my Guidance (Higher Self). If this is the case for you, choose one or more of the self-compassion tools I offered above.
In addition, make sure you are getting good sleep. Stress and a lack of sleep is likely two of the most common contributors to feeling you’ve come unglued.
When in doubt, call a trusted friend, relative, or support person (such as a therapist, Inner Bonding facilitator, etc.). I called Victor Granville, my good friend and Inner Bonding facilitator, and his kind, compassionate coaching grounded me until I was able to take loving care of myself.
Alright, dear one. I’ve most enjoyed creating this 30-Day Self-Compassion Challenge. I do hope you’ll check out my other challenges when you have time. Let me know if there is any other way I can support you on your journey.
Feeling deep love and gratitude for you,
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Featured Image: “Praying Hands” by Xomiele on Flickr