Courage is fear that said its prayers.
—Author Unknown
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​Hello, Love

Today’s the final day of our 30-Day Self-Compassion Challenge, and I’m so grateful you chose to go through this curriculum.

I confess…

It was originally my intention to do some sort of fancy wrap up for Day 30, but as I sit here waiting for my flight from Manchester, England, to Houston, Texas, I’m in desparate need of self-compassion.

The purpose of today’s post is two-fold—to wrap up and say good luck on your self-compassion journey, as well as, to share a final lesson.

Regarding our wrap up lesson, I want to share…

Two nights ago I had a major freak out. 

It happened right before I left Thailand too, so perhaps I shouldn’t have been so surprised by losing it. That said, I thought I had my emotions under wraps this time—thought I had this travel thing down.

Sometimes no matter how much care we extend ourselves or how much self-compassion we give, sometimes we just need more support.

I planned.

I attempted to manage my helplessness over others and outcomes.

I did my very best.

And still…despite all the precautions and forward thinking, things just didn’t work out as I had hoped.

Has this ever happened to you? Have you ever thought you were fine—that you could handle the pressure—until you blew a gasket?

It’s likely.

If you ever feel out of control, here are a few helpful suggestions:

Today’s Self-Compassion Challenge:

Move into compassion for yourself. Allow yourself to feel what you are feeling in this very moment. Every feeling is acceptable. Trust and know that there is a very good reason you feel the way you do. Your task is to open to learn about what is going on inside.

Check in with your Higher Self and see what you can do to best support yourself.

When I had my freak out, I couldn’t connect with my Guidance (Higher Self). If this is the case for you, choose one or more of the self-compassion tools I offered above.

In addition, make sure you are getting good sleep. Stress and a lack of sleep is likely two of the most common contributors to feeling you’ve come unglued.

When in doubt, call a trusted friend, relative, or support person (such as a therapist, Inner Bonding facilitator, etc.). I called Victor Granville, my good friend and Inner Bonding facilitator, and his kind, compassionate coaching grounded me until I was able to take loving care of myself.

Alright, dear one. I’ve most enjoyed creating this 30-Day Self-Compassion Challenge. I do hope you’ll check out my other challenges when you have time. Let me know if there is any other way I can support you on your journey.

Feeling deep love and gratitude for you,

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2 comments on “How To Lovingly Care For Yourself When You Freak Out | Day 30 of the Self-Compassion Challenge”

  1. There have been those times when I’ve experienced something equivalent to freaking out or being out of control. It usually involves some physical ailment or a stack of things that I’m worried about. You offer excellent advice, Misty, when you write: “Move into compassion for yourself. Allow yourself to feel what you are feeling in this very moment. Every feeling is acceptable. Trust and know that there is a very good reason you feel the way you do. Your task is to open to learn about what is going on inside.”

    I find that when I’m freaking out because what’s coming to me in life seems overwhelming it’s because I’m offering resistance at some level. I need to stop resisting and simply let go, trusting that what I’m experiencing is there for a reason and I can learn something valuable from what is happening. Sometimes the experience seems life-threatening and I have to let go even of my life in human form.

    Jesus made the very wise statement: “Resist not evil.” Don’t resist anything, even the death of the body, recognizing that the Being I am is eternal and can never die. Sometimes the words of my good friend and mentor Martin Cecil come to mind: “The truth is true and all is well; unconquerable life prevails.”

    • Your comment reminds me of something I read this morning in the Deep Breath of Life. A woman in Alan Cohen’s workshop said she “let go of things by leaving claw marks everything as it leaves”. I couldn’t help but laugh at that visual. It is hard to trust that things are working out for us when our bodies are sick or things feel out of control. Resisting is very painful, and acknowledging our helplessness over the time it takes to heal (or the helplessness over the circumstance we find ourselves in) is a very hard feeling to feel. It’s great to have friends and quotes that soothe our soul in troubled times. =) Thanks for all of the time you put into reading my posts and commenting, Jerry! I appreciate you.

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