Welcome to Day Fourteen of the 30 Days of Forgiveness.
Last night before I went to bed I felt a deep wave of sadness wash over me.
It’s hard not to be touched by deep sadness and sorrow by many of the things happening in our world.
An example of one thing that makes me sad is present each time I go to my local park.
Each morning I go to Memory Lake about 30 to 45 minutes before the sun rises, and I can’t help but notice trash on the ground. There are plenty of waste cans in the park, yet despite this fact, people somehow find it fashionable to throw beer cans and other litter all over the place.
When I first started walking at the park, I would bring a sack and pick up all the trash I could, but before long, I noticed I spent all my time picking up junk. After a few weeks, I grew tired of pick up other people’s mess instead of enjoying the walk—which was my intention for coming.
I felt very felt angry about this situation.
How could people be so disrespectful to the Earth? Why do “good” people like myself need to clean up after other people’s ignorance? The questions would go on and on, but my mind could never come up with a reasonable answer for my concern.
After a while I begin to realize that my anger was just a cover-up for a deeper, more hard-to-feel emotion.
What I was really feeling was a great sadness.
I felt sad that the Earth is seen by some as a waste basket. I felt sad that just by living and eating on this planet, even I generate waste. You see, unless I grow my own food, I’m bringing home lots of packaging and plastics from the grocery, all of which eventually end up in a landfill.
So from my current perspective, even though I personally take the time to put my own waste in the trashcan, and even though I take the time to clean up other people’s mess, I’m still contributing to a larger problem.
Now I don’t have any real solutions to this problem. Maybe you do. I’m personally not ready to grow my own food; nor am I ready to stop buying any food that has any packaging. So all I know to do is honor the sadness I feel.
Unchecked my deep sadness only hurts me. However, when treated with the tenderest of care, feelings such as sadness can be gently released. I can also heal my cover-up emotions, such as anger, by releasing what I can’t change and forgiving myself and others.
Is there anything you feel deeply sad about?
Take a moment to examine what hurts your heart. Also take a look at the things that anger you. Is it possible your anger is covering up deeper emotions, such as sadness?
Take one thing that saddens you and hold it gently. It helps to imagine the sad part of you as a small child. Sit with your child—your inner child—and soothe him or her. You can say things like, “I know this is a hard feeling to feel.” Or console him or her with any words that feel natural to you.
There is no need to try to change how you feel. There is no need to fix the problem or to find a solution. Just allow your sadness and core pain to be. Honoring sadness can be a wonderful way to free up space inside and fill yourself up with love from the inside out.
Alright dear one, our core painful feelings deserve our time and loving attention. Stuffing down our pain or always covering over it with strong emotions such as anger, frustration, and resentment, only negate what is really happening inside.
Today’s contemplation may be a difficult exercise, but I promise, it is well worth your time.
Honoring your sadness can release all sorts of stuck emotions. It can open your heart, so you will have more and more love to share with the world.
Share your thoughts about today’s exercise in the comment’s section below. I look forward to hearing from you.
Sending you lots of love and gentleness, my friend!
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