Welcome to Day Fourteen of the 30 Days of Forgiveness.


Hello, Love.

Last night before I went to bed I felt a deep wave of sadness wash over me. 

It’s hard not to be touched by deep sadness and sorrow by many of the things happening in our world.

An example of one thing that makes me sad is present each time I go to my local park.

Each morning I go to Memory Lake about 30 to 45 minutes before the sun rises, and I can’t help but notice trash on the ground. There are plenty of waste cans in the park, yet despite this fact, people somehow find it fashionable to throw beer cans and other litter all over the place.

When I first started walking at the park, I would bring a sack and pick up all the trash I could, but before long, I noticed I spent all my time picking up junk. After a few weeks, I grew tired of pick up other people’s mess instead of enjoying the walk—which was my intention for coming.

I felt very felt angry about this situation. 

How could people be so disrespectful to the Earth? Why do “good” people like myself need to clean up after other people’s ignorance? The questions would go on and on, but my mind could never come up with a reasonable answer for my concern.

After a while I begin to realize that my anger was just a cover-up for a deeper, more hard-to-feel emotion.

What I was really feeling was a great sadness.

I felt sad that the Earth is seen by some as a waste basket. I felt sad that just by living and eating on this planet, even I generate waste. You see, unless I grow my own food, I’m bringing home lots of packaging and plastics from the grocery, all of which eventually end up in a landfill.

So from my current perspective, even though I personally take the time to put my own waste in the trashcan, and even though I take the time to clean up other people’s mess, I’m still contributing to a larger problem.

Now I don’t have any real solutions to this problem. Maybe you do. I’m personally not ready to grow my own food; nor am I ready to stop buying any food that has any packaging. So all I know to do is honor the sadness I feel.

Unchecked my deep sadness only hurts me. However, when treated with the tenderest of care, feelings such as sadness can be gently released. I can also heal my cover-up emotions, such as anger, by releasing what I can’t change and forgiving myself and others.

Today’s Contemplation:

Is there anything you feel deeply sad about? 

Take a moment to examine what hurts your heart. Also take a look at the things that anger you. Is it possible your anger is covering up deeper emotions, such as sadness?

Take one thing that saddens you and hold it gently. It helps to imagine the sad part of you as a small child. Sit with your child—your inner child—and soothe him or her. You can say things like, “I know this is a hard feeling to feel.” Or console him or her with any words that feel natural to you.

There is no need to try to change how you feel. There is no need to fix the problem or to find a solution. Just allow your sadness and core pain to be. Honoring sadness can be a wonderful way to free up space inside and fill yourself up with love from the inside out.

Alright dear one, our core painful feelings deserve our time and loving attention. Stuffing down our pain or always covering over it with strong emotions such as anger, frustration, and resentment, only negate what is really happening inside.

Today’s contemplation may be a difficult exercise, but I promise, it is well worth your time.

Honoring your sadness can release all sorts of stuck emotions. It can open your heart, so you will have more and more love to share with the world.

Share your thoughts about today’s exercise in the comment’s section below. I look forward to hearing from you.

Sending you lots of love and gentleness, my friend!




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6 comments on “Hold Your Sadness With Loving Tenderness”

  1. Misty, I really resonate with the sadness you feel when you go to that park and discover all of the trash. It is especially sad for me to find trash on the ground here at Sunrise Ranch. We are supposed to be a spiritual community, honoring every foot of our grounds as holy. The whole earth is sacred and yet look at what human beings have done to it. Yes, great sadness.

    As you rightly mention, Misty, we are all contributing in some way to this condition. So there is certainly no justification for blaming others. We can just do our best to be impeccable in our own living, creating and sustaining sacred space wherever we are. I love your statement: “Honoring sadness can be a wonderful way to free up space inside and fill yourself up with love from the inside out.” I am strongly with you in doing this.

    • And I love these words that you wrote, “we can just do our best to be impeccable in our own living, creating and sustaining sacred space wherever we are.” One of the most difficult feelings to feel of all is helpless over others, but we are never helpless over ourselves. Finding ways to do our best and live in alignment with our own values—even in the midst of sadness and powerlessness over others—is really key to making the world a better place for everyone. Thank you for your continued contribution both to me and to the world at large. I’m blessed to call you a friend, Jerry.

  2. I feel sad for anyone who is so closed minded that they can’t see past what they want to believe. It seems so limiting. On the other hand, maybe they are actually blissful in their ignorance, so maybe I shouldn’t second guess their mental state.

    • Sean mentioned something similar the other day—that some things are too hard for most people to look at so they cover their eyes in blissful ignorance. It certainly can be a more peaceful way to live versus sitting with the great powerlessness we have other others, institutions, outcomes, circumstances, forces of nature, etc. I think some people are more equipped to look at the Truth. I for one, prefer blissful ignorance on many topics. =)

  3. Sorry to get political, but I feel very sad for die-hard Trump supporting Republicans who have sacrificed their moral compasses for a political platform, my parents included. Regularly ingesting the Rush Limbaugh/Sean Hannity/Alex Jones vitriol they dwell in their righteous indignation for anyone else not on board with their narrow views.

    Attempting to hold a rational conversation with them about alternate points of view is about as productive as nailing jello to a wall. Worse, it only seems to embolden them in their beliefs. How do you reason with someone who dismisses facts as optional? It’s like arguing with bratty 8 year olds.

    • I’m curious. What is the underlying sadness regarding trying to have a conversation with Republicans? What specifically makes you sad?

      I was thinking more about that with my story. I think the underlying sadness is that we are all “trashing” the world to various degrees, and I’m not sure how to stop (or in many cases lessen the offense). For me I see the sadness a projection of my own doing, but it’s easier to see what others are doing and think it’s more offensive.

      Also, I love, love, love the saying it’s “about as productive as nailing jello to a wall”. That cracked me up, Greg! I’m going to use it!

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