Welcome to Day Six of the 30 Days of Forgiveness.

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Hello, Dear One.

I know some of you taking are this course because you have a specific grievance you want to forgive; others of us are just curious about the topic in general.

No matter where you are on the spectrum of reasons, you are likely to notice an emotional charge as you work through this series.

I have been feeling anger, fear, anxiety, and a sense of helplessness over others, and these feelings are no fun! Despite the discomfort, each one of us can push through and really honor and love the part of us that wants to live with inner peace and joy.

And….

Today’s Call To Action:

Today’s deep inquiry is to take a look at your behavior when negative emotions arise. Consider what best helps you deal with these difficult emotions. Do you use a specific technique or process? Do you reach out to a friend? What about remembering a story or giving yourself a pep talk? Does something special work for you?

Post a comment on the blog today and share what personally helps you best.

Alright, dear one. I have found Inner Bonding works best to help me manage my difficult emotions, but there are many resources and tools to guide you on your journey. I look forward to seeing what works best for you.

If you need more resources, browse through your classmates suggestions, as well as, check out the resources from the Inner Bonding 30-Day series. Once you’re on the Inner Bonding page, just click on the specific link that best matches the emotion you want to work through. I hope this is helpful to you.

Sending you lots of love today,

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8 comments on “Handling Those Hard-To-Feel Emotions When Working On Forgiveness”

  1. My best defense against negative emotions that arise is meditation. It is my rock. When I’m feeling sour, or angry or any other negative feeling, meditation allows me to feel those feelings without judgment and without trying to find a solution.

    The magic of the practice is that those harsh feelings melt away. It’s initially like trying to surf on choppy waves out in the ocean. Then, after several minutes up to an hour, those waves feel like they are dissipating and the surfboard gently cruises onto the beach where it is much calmer. It’s amazing how effective it is.

    • Greg, would you share a bit about how to started mediation? Any tips to help people get started? I always love hearing people talk about the benefits of meditation, but I think for many, it can be daunting to start. What advice could you share for someone who wants to try this method to reduce an emotional charge and create inner peace?

      PS. I also want to share my gratitude that you are commenting and sharing what works for you on these posts. This helps us develop community with one another as we work through theisseries. You are most appreciated, Greg.

      • Thank you, Misty. You are appreciated too!

        For someone starting meditation:

        Find a comfortable place to sit, close your eyes and focus on your breath as it goes in and out of your nostrils. As sensations arise in your body, perhaps an itch or anything else, don’t react to it by scratching it or getting angry about it, but rather feel the itch or sensation. Just feel it, even if it’s very annoying to you.

        This is important to allow yourself to be tolerant of unpleasant thoughts and situations. As you feel the itch without letting it bug you, the sensation will eventually fade. This very process is the training of your mind that will bring a level peace you may not have previously experienced.

        The most challenging part of meditation is holding focus while your mind wants to wander around your thoughts. When you find yourself “daydreaming” or otherwise thinking about anything other than breathing and feeling sensations, gently, but quickly bring yourself back to focusing on your breathing and feeling bodily sensations.

        If you want to put your meditation practice into high gear, I highly recommend taking the 10-day intensive Vipassana meditation course. There are centers around the world. Here is the website: http://www.dhamma.org I’ve done it twice, once as a student and once as a server. It’s the single best thing I’ve ever done in my life.

        • I think Sean and I are going to try to attend a 10-day before he goes back to England. Right now there is no availability for women before he needs to leave the US. However, it’s possible there will be a cancellation, and we could both attend. (It’s also located fairly close to the Dallas airport—which is a nice bonus.)

          Our friend Shagufta has made the same recommendation. I’ve looked several times over the past few years, but unfortunately there are always limited availability for women. It appears there are generally more open slots for men. Lucky guys! =)

          Thanks for the suggestion. It’s prompted me to check out their site again.

          • It actually isn’t a bad idea to attend separate courses. That way, you can totally focus on yourself, instead of being tempted to gaze to the other side to catch glimpses of each other, or generally being distracted by wondering how your partner is doing.

            Even while waiting to see if a slot opens up, the best thing to do is to monitor the site for the very next class when it first gets scheduled and then POUNCE on it! That gives you the best chance of eventually attending. If you’re willing to travel, apply to as many courses in other locations until you get accepted to one of them.

            Just my 2 cents!

  2. Many years of 12 step program has given me the first three steps to recovery. Simply “I can’t”, “He can”, think “I will let him” take care of these difficult emotions This clears my head enough to see my part in the process and take action on my behalf. When I first started I used to think “How laborious!” but now it happens in a nanosecond and I am free to do what is best for me. The truer I am to myself the more I receive form the world and others without trying to control the situation or person.

    • My friend John Henry McDonald has told our Mastermind group many, many times to pray this simple prayer. “Dear, God. Please help. Amen.” He is involved in AA, now as a mentor and guide, as are many in our Mastermind group. I think this matches what you shared.

      I think our mind thinks it can figure everything out, but while the mind is a powerful tool, it can’t read the future or predict the best outcome in situation where there are many unknowns. A simple practice like you share is so valuable for calming the mind—taming the negative thoughts and scary things we say and do to ourselves in times of difficulty and uncertainty.

      Thanks for your continued dedication to this series, Curtis. I appreciate you.

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