Welcome to Day Two of the 30 Days of Forgiveness.


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​Hello, Love

A long-time reader of my blog commented on yesterday’s post with these words—”Seemed heavier than usual.” 

His comment made me stop and realize that forgiveness has been a heavy topic for me. It also left me wondering—Does forgiveness need to be heavy?

It is possible to forgive with ease and grace.

Right?

Since I’m leading this 30-Day series, you deserve to know the truth

I AM NOT an expert on forgiveness, and honestly, I’m not even 100% clear why I chose this topic.

If you’re on my monthly newsletter list—The [LOVE LETTER]—then you’ll know this topic chose me. 

I know this must sound strange.

I had originally wanted to create another series, but for the two weeks prior to launching, I noticed the topic of forgiveness kept coming up over and over again. It was mentioned repeatedly in several books that I was reading. I heard several speakers on YouTube emphasize how important forgiveness was, and the concept kept surfacing in conversations with people I was bumping into.

I think intuitively I knew I needed to implement forgiveness into my Spiritual practice—even though consciously I wasn’t aware forgiveness would be helpful.

As this series begins to take shape, I can’t help but be curious about your reasons for joining us in exploring the 30 Days of Forgiveness. I confess I was pleasantly surprised by the uptick in the number of people who joined us. The numbers were much larger than previous series, and we’ve definitely seen had a lot of new people join in.

I suspect they’re indicative of the great need for this topic.

Today’s Call To Action:

Take a few minutes and think about why you joined the 30 Days of Forgiveness series then share some of your thoughts in the comments section below.

Here a few questions to consider:

  • What drew you to join this particular challenge?
  • Are you here because you have a specific situation you want to work on? Or are you curious about forgiveness in general?
  • Is there anything about forgiveness that you struggle with or are confused by?Anything that you were hoping to discover by taking this 30-day series?
  • Do you feel competency in this topic? If not, what is lacking in order for you to practice forgiveness with confidence?

Alright, my dear. I can’t help but curiously wonder why you chose to join this series! Leaving a comment below provides fuel for a conversation, so thanks in advance for your participation.

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6 comments on “Examine Your Desire To Explore Forgiveness”

  1. One reason I joined was to learn what other knew about forgiveness. Having grown up in the southern bible belt and gone to church I heard this word used often. As a verb I was suppose to forgive others. And I also was forgiven I suppose this as a noun. Then you could forgive ones own self. Sorta a powerful word with lots of different meaning and uses.

    • I grew up in church, too, but while I heard the word, I never learned how to do it. Did your church teach you how to forgive? I find this one of the great benefits of creating this blog. The things we hear all the time—you’ve got to love yourself, just be yourself, etc. Until I starting writing about and digging into the process behind how to love myself and be myself, I wasn’t making any headway.

      Honestly, it’s hard. How many times have we heard, “Just be yourself but don’t do (XYZ).” Or how about this “You’ve gotta love yourself but (XYZ you do for yourself) is being selfish.” Forgiveness feels in the same category. I feel it’s a word that gets thrown around in Spiritual and religious communities but it isn’t attached to the how. How do you do it? How do you know when it is complete? I’m starting to view Loving Yourself, Forgiveness, etc. as a way of being, and this realization has caused me to search more deeply for answers.

      I’m glad you’ve joined us, Stephen!

  2. I began to practice forgiveness as a result of a rather shattering crisis in my life that got me to re-evaluating all the “values” I was carrying around with me. I had been taught they were “values” to hold on to by my family of origin. Grudges were a way of life to protect you from similar things happening to me again. It can become very tiring carrying those “values” with you and was keeping me from trying new things that came into my life. I sank into deep depression and thought some pill would cure it. I then read Dr Wayne Dyer’s writings about forgiveness and how he had spontaneously wrote his first best seller as a result of finding the grave of his deceased father and truly forgiving him for the trespasses of the past. There was no one there to actually forgive to in words but he felt the weight of the world lift when he really did forgive his father. He realized the man was doing the best he could do and the real damage to Wayne was what he had done to himself with the pain over the years. I realized that my problems were also indeed more of what I had done to myself than what had happened to me. I don’t even notice the sleights I once would have internalized.

    • Wow! Thanks for sharing your story, Curtis. Life-shattering experiences are sometime the very fuel for spiritual growth. It certainly seems that way for you.

      I love this quote you stated, “I realized that my problems were also indeed more of what I had done to myself than what had happened to me.” What a powerful realization.

      Isn’t it wonderful that forgiveness is something that occurs within us, so a person being alive and being willing to undergo reconciliation is not the ultimate goal. I’m thinking the ultimate outcome is inner peace, and this is what I understood occurred for Dr. Dyer, and it appears, for you, too.

      Thanks for your continued participation, Curtis. You’re such a valuable asset to this community!

  3. The main reason I joined this challenge is because I realize that holding grudges is an insidious, subtle force, preventing me from moving forward in life. While I found that even though I have learned to forgive, it does not instantly eliminate the turmoil and angst I experienced. But, it most definitely makes coping with those feelings more tolerable. Then, the magic of time wears away those harsh feelings sooner than if I hadn’t done the forgiving. The other main reason I signed up is the most awesome leader running this operation. 🙂

    • You know how to make me SMILE!

      To respond to your comment: I am experiencing a similar thing. I’m realizing the hardest part of forgiving is two-fold. One) I often do so with a covert agenda. I say I want to forgive but I really I hope it will take away the pain. Two) It’s clear to me that dealing with the underlying emotions is key to true healing and forgiveness.

      Regarding your comment on time. While time does help, I often awake having had a dream about some old unresolved issue. Or a thought about an old conflict may pop into my head at any moment, bringing back the full intensity of the old wound. So while time has caused me to forget (to a degree) and/or has lessened the intensity, I personally feel it doesn’t totally resolve things.

      There is much to learn, and I’m finding so many reasons to forgive, release suffering, and live with inner joy and peace.

      Thanks for your contribution, Greg.

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