Welcome to Day Twenty-one of the 30 Days of Forgiveness.
Yesterday I posed several questions about your thoughts on assuming full responsibility for everything that happens in your life.
If you’re like me, you are (unconsciously) looking out into the world for what’s your fault versus what is someone else’s fault.
So many of us look out into the world and see judgements and assign blame
However, as I dug deeper into the Ho’oponopono methodology, I became clear about how powerful it can be to take full responsibility for everything that occurred in my life. I saw the benefits of moving away from seeing the world through the eyes of judgment.
I started exploring this concept in two ways:
First, I removed my fault finding mechanism. Honestly I thought I came pre-programmed with this tendency, but I’m beginning to believe this is a programmed way of being. My unconscious tendency is to try to control myself and others, but this has been preventing me from moving forward in life—and likely is a huge reason my Guidance lead me to create this forgiveness series.
Second, I redirected my attention to the things in life I actually had control over. I have control over my thoughts, my feelings, and my actions (my behaviors); most everything else in life is out of my direct control.
Don’t get me wrong.
I still try to control everything and everyone around me—myself included. However, over time I am more quickly choosing to choose the intention to learn to love myself and others, instead of continuously attempting to control and protect.
(FYI: I learned this from Dr. Margaret Paul of Inner Bonding.)
When I use Dr. Paul’s teaching, along, with this principle in Ho’oponopono, I easily move past the blame game. I also realize my past controlling behaviors—such as anger, blame, rejection, judgement, etc.—are my resistance to feeling my feelings fully.
So it’s so much easier to feel anger, blame, resentment, etc. These feelings give us the false illusion of power, when these feelings really are the antithesis of power.
When I accept I can’t control everything in life and I simultaneously take full responsibility for everything that is happening to me, I open the door to true power. I make it possible to let go of controlling others, circumstances, and outcomes, and I open to learn to do what is truly loving for myself and others. I do this through redirecting my focus on what I could control; again, these are my thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Consider your current feelings and thoughts about this principle.
How would adopting this belief—that you are fully responsibility for everything that happens in your life—affect your life and your relationships? How would it aid you in having the best relationships possible? Or the career or business of your dreams? Or the self confidence you deeply desire?
Alright, dear one. Please know that you are supported fully by your Guidance as you work to forgive yourself, others, and life circumstances. I’m also here to help, and I 100% support you in shifting your thoughts, feelings, and actions to align your life with your true desires.
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