Welcome to Day Nine of the “No Limits” Challenge. This is Week Two, and our focus will be on relationships. Enjoy! //

Each morning I wake up and read an inspirational story from “A Deep Breath of Life” by Alan Cohen (Amazon Affiliate Link). Most days I really love the story, but for some reason this morning I didn’t really like the one I read. So I randomly chose to read another in its place.

Strangely, the second story had the same theme as the first, and I felt an all to familiar intuitive hit that this was a sign to pay attention. I decided to sit and meditate on the possibility that Guidance wanted me to receive a particular message today through these stories

After a few minutes it hit me. I felt strongly the message was this:

In order to find the deep connection you desire with others, you must first honestly and intimately create that connection within yourself.

I felt a smile erupt on my face!

You see I had a negative experience with a friend a few weeks ago, and that situation left me feeling unsafe inside.

For weeks in my head I had played the situation over and over, wondering what I’d done wrong and searching for what was going on with the other person. Each time I analyzed what had happened I concluded that this friendship no longer reflected a healthy one, and it was time to let it go.

Yet the situation did not resolve, and it would resurface every few days asking for resolution.

This morning I sat with the message I had just received, and it dawned on me—the one thing I haven’t been doing is giving myself the deep connection I had really longed for.

In fact I’d gone to stay with this particular person because I no longer felt a connection. I thought the reason was due to our physical distance and staying in his home would allow us to share ourselves more intimately. It was my intention that this would bring us closer together, but instead, it only brought to light deeper concern.

With this clarity I could see that I had been expecting him to offer me kindness and understanding, but I was failing to offer that kindness and understanding toward myself.

No wonder things felt unresolved. This situation held a deeper purpose in my life and was patiently awaiting my discovery.

With my newfound perspective, I decided to do what my Guidance suggested and began to send myself kindness, compassion, and understanding regarding the situation that occurred. As I did this I began to see many friendships over the years that I’ve stayed in that also were not healthy.

I began to see that if I had been kind, compassionate, and understanding toward myself in those situations many of the friendships would have likely changed form, or they would have faded away without strife.

I felt Guidance’s assurance that as I began to give myself more and more of what I really needed, I would begin attracting friendships with people who naturally offered the same.


Today’s Challenge:

Does any of my story resonate with you? If so, how?

Is there any way you are not being kind, compassionate, or understanding with your self? Are you giving yourself the very things you deeply crave from your relationships?

Alright, dear one. Explore these questions and develop a deeper, more authentic relationship with yourself. You deserve relationships without limits, and that all starts with your relationship with your precious self!

Much love,



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3 comments on “Are You Giving Yourself The Friendship You Desire From Others?”

  1. I think we’ve all been victims of false teachings that we’ve picked up from parents, teachers and other people we respected at some level, most of these people having the best of intentions of course but nevertheless not having a clear vision of reality.

    I would also add this to what I wrote earlier: So many people engage in “projection,” that is, they blame or condemn others for behaviors, attitudes or other issues that they haven’t resolved within themselves. This kind of reaction is rampant in society among individuals, and in the international arena even occurs among nations.

    Also on the matter of self-acceptance or self-connection, on some spiritual paths it is emphasized that change is essential, that spiritual maturity involves wholesale change into a new person. While I can in some ways appreciate this emphasis on change, my own spiritual path has been a process of learning to accept, fully connect with and love the person that I inherently am.

  2. You make such an important point in this challenge, Misty: “In order to find the deep connection you desire with others, you must first honestly and intimately create that connection within yourself.” We can hardly expect an authentic friendship with another human being if we are not on friendly terms with the truth of ourselves. And by “truth of ourselves” I mean the Higher Self or Guidance that defines the very core or essence of who we are. Here at Sunrise we often refer to it as the Angel and seek to relate to each other Angel to Angel, rather than human self to human self.

    • I love that analogy—Angel to Angel. It’s always such a pleasure to hear about the teachings of Sunrise. What a Divine place—a place where people can discover Truth and integrate into a world more aligned with Spiritual law.

      And…what a gift, right? To commune with oneself in a way that allows for the full acceptance of who we are. I am continuing to work on this myself. To discover my essence and fully accept it—slowly dissolving the false teachings I’ve learned over the years. (A common example I hear more often from men is “Good guys finish last”. What a tragedy to believe this is true. Yet so many believe it and act on it as Truth, thereby living life from a distorted and misguided perspective.)

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